Thursday, March 5, 2009

Don't take boring for granted

It was not too long ago that my life was so boring I thought my mind was turning to jelly.
I was a stay-at-home mom with a kid that was now in full time school. It's hard to turn
housework and paperwork and just the typical someone's mom and someone's wife into
a "raison d'etre." ?spelling? So I decided to get back into the landlord business. We sold
a rental we owned in 2003 and I figured I needed a new project. Unfortunately 10 days
after closing on that new project, Tim was hospitalized and diagnosed with cancer. Uh-oh!!!
Now I had 2 projects and the one of caregiver is a 24/7 job. Now I find myself overwhelmed
with responsibility. The rental has been a ton of work and aggravation. Things are going smoothly now but I'm afraid to even say that out loud. I do all the paperwork and accounting
for Tim's business and of course take care of our daughter which is mostly taxi service. Tim's transplant in 9/07 was really a ton of work between all the doctor and hosp. visits and the
fact that I went with him and took care of him 1/2 the time at a condo. We are very grateful
for the CR he is in now and it is a big help not to be doing doc visits every month anymore
but I still have WAY too many balls in the air. I really did not know how good I had it when my
life was boring. There are so many ways to fix boring. I feel like there is not too much I can do
to fix the amount of responsibility I have. Tim and I are both givers by nature and even though
we have a decent support system and a lot of offers of help, it's hard to be on the other side of
that equation now. We turn down a lot more than we accept. It's hard to change that and there's a lot that I must do that no one else can do for me anyway. Last year, I got so behind in paperwork and then I get depressed and can't catch up. I paid a price for that so this year I
am trying to keep up and not get behind. Tim has gotten to the point where he is tired of working. It takes a lot out of him and since we had to take on employees when he got sick, there's the aggravation of dealing with that too. We did not hit the big lottery again so there's no
retiring now. I'm wracking my brain with what kind of work I could go into that would give us
medical benefits so he could stop working but having been out of the workforce for as long as
I have is poison on a resume and many have lost jobs and are looking who have current experience. I don't know what the answer is. I've been running like a nut all week, I'm leaving on a Girl Scout trip with Olivia tomorrow. My mom is in the hospital having a really bad asthma reaction to a cold. I'm taking Tim to the doctor tomorrow before we leave for bloodwork cause
his white cells are too low(hopefully just a reaction from the flu and the cold he caught right after that). I'm just getting over the flu and cold too and while Tim laid on the couch for 3 weeks,
I still had to cook, clean, do laundry and all the other jobs I do while taking care of him and Olivia. OY!!!! I'm exhausting myself just typing this darn post. Well the moral is, as I said, don't take boring for granted. If your life is boring, my goodness, CELEBRATE. I can't even begin to
tell you how badly I want that back.

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