I was just glancing at some blogs I follow and saw on "Margaret's corner" that one of her
myeloma buddies died. She did not mention the name but I thought, "oh no, could this
be Nancy?" I hate to do this cause it seems so morbid but I checked the obits online where
Nancy lives and it was indeed she that Margaret was speaking about. I'm so bummed. Last
year around Valentine's Day, Nancy had a little contest to see who could write the best "Love is...." quip. I think only 2 of us replied but she sent me a small heart pin that she had as
a prize and, knowing I had a little girl, some little printed cards for her to use and color.
This woman was good people. Truly one of the wittiest minds I've ever encountered and
I wish I had the chance to meet her in person. I love folks who are honest and tell it like
it is and Nancy was one of those people. I always checked her blog first. Her posts
made me laugh out loud and many times she would post pics and stories about her family
adventures from years ago. She was a single gal who lived alone and how she went through
all that she did amazes me. I know she got a lot of help from family and friends but I still can't imagine how tough it must be to be suffering chemo side-effects and other health related issues by yourself. She fought this beast hard but unfortunately, her MM seemed to be of the type that didn't respond very well and she made the decision to stop treatment. God, she was only 53. It's been a rough few months in MM blogland. Really sobering. I don't know what else to say. I'm just numb. When I tried to think of a "Love is....." saying to comment on her blog in Feb. '09, the only thing I could come up with was a really practical thing about love and what it meant to us since Tim's diagnosis. I wrote, "Love is......sticking around to shovel when the shit hits the fan." Not too romantic but when the chips are down,
you hope that you have someone in your life who is gonna have your back and not bolt at the first sign of trouble. I'm glad Nancy had a crew of shovelers in her life(and she did literally too with the brigades who came and did her yard work for her). I also know that
Nancy is up there ranting like crazy on our behalf and shovelling away for all of us MM folk now. I miss you already Nancy.You ARE unforgettable.
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I was a follower of La Coot's blog and from time to time shared direct e-mails, so I feel the same loss you do of her bright spirit and unflagging determination to "say it like it is."
We all knew when she posted her farewell that she had come to some kind of acceptance about the door we all face sometime, but that doesn't make this moment in time any easier, does it? I don't want to be sad about it, but I can't help crying a little that MM, like a drunk driver hitting an innocent victim, is so (blankin') ruthless.
Thank you for taking the time to confirm Margaret's hint for us... a thoughtful thing to do.
I too had read Margret's blog and had hoped against hope that it wasn't La Coot she was referring to. I'm very new to this MM scene, and hadn't followed her blog for very long, but her courage at the end was truly awe inspiring. Over the last three months that feel like three years, I have been surprised by just how attached I have gotten to others in the world of blog, and I'm not ashamed to say I shed a tear for those I have never met in person, but who opened their hearts and shared all there was to be found there.
I didn't know her but I'm sorry for your loss of a blog friend. I totally agree with your love is post! When you are young in a relationship it is all blue sky's and butterflies... Then life hits... Then it really comes down to trusting your wife, husband, partner to pick up all the pieces that break around you! Again, I'm truly sorry for your loss.
I was so saddened when I learned of her death too, but then also relieved for her. It seems the more of this dealing with myeloma I get (now 18+ months) the more I see it as a transition. Some days I feel so hopeful, other days I just feel like my body is crapping out slowly but surely and there will be nothing like the peace of just quietly slipping away to give me relief. I guess when we lose someone after this kind of battle, I readily think of the relief they must have now.
But that doesn't mean I am not continuing to fight as hard as everyone else here along these blogs! I have so many things coming up I would like to be around for ...
Your words about Nancy are right on, the world has lost a bit of awesome since she's left it. I'm one of her Foodies, and she was always doing such nice things for people...she will be missed.
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