It happened

Well, today, my father-in-law finally broke this camel's back.
We went up there to see family friends who were up from NC and with a few beers in him, he decided to
insult me AGAIN in front of people. As a matter of fact, he's done it in front of this man before. Both I and Timmy have warned him that we'd had enough of the insults and nastiness. I grabbed my purse, told him he really needed to learn to shut his mouth and stormed out. Thus began a family fight with
my kid crying in the car, and me going back and forth into the house trying to get Tim out of there as I had one of Liv's friends being dropped off at my house for a youth group outing I was taking them to. I knew this
was bound to happen sooner or later and get this. Somehow my father-in-law got it into his head that I told
off the neighbor for the firework incident back in July and now we're not on speaking terms. Hmmm. I never said a word to them. Tim did and it was all settled. As a matter of fact, the neighbor was just over my house
yesterday to ask if I wanted to buy a raffle ticket for the fire dept. We all get along just fine. My f-i-l tells me that I am stupid because
I was not on speaking terms with someone. It was said with a whole lot of venom and accusation, believe me.  I thought he was talking about the s-i-l thing. He claims no, that
he was talking about the neighbor. Either way, I said that was none of his business anyway. So it all blew up.
Tim told him he had totally wrong information and that what he just accused me of, NEVER happened. Tim's sister was there crying and yelling and apparently, despite what the s-i-l and f-i-l have done, and the fact that my f-i-l has lost most of their friends because they've all had it with his mouth, and everyone can't believe what the s-i-l did to us, Tim's sis said WE are breaking up
the family because we don't suck it up. She says the s-i-l has done things to her too but she deals with it for the sake of the family. I said, you are not living our life and what she did to us was totally different from your experiences. Tim said, "WHY DO WE HVE TO DEAL WITH HER CRAP AT ALL?" He told them, "I don't even know how long I have on this earth and I have to put up with that!!" What a mess. It's far too long to get all into but I always knew this was going to happen and
that my poor kid would wind up with a front row seat. They just don't get it. I told his dad, "your behavior
does not reflect on me. You think your insults make ME look bad, when I have 3 of your friends tell me that they can't believe how you speak to me?!" He tried to say he
was kidding but just like the s-i-l, he wasn't. You should have heard the tone in his voice. Passive aggression is still aggression, they just don't want to be held responsible for it when someone calls them out. Everyone knows he's not kidding. He's just miserable and makes everyone around him miserable too. He and the sis-in-law have the same problem and they think they can just go through life getting all this stuff off their chest but DON'T DARE say anything to them.  Anyway, I am thinking of taking this blog private. I hesitate to do this
because the people I know in the MM blogland mean the world to me and I do not want to lose touch with any of you. So PLEASE if I do take this private, put in a request or however it's done. I will set up access to
all those I can, if that's how it works, but I hope that I will not lose contact with any of you. As I've said in the past, I don't share my blog with our families. It's my place to vent without feeling the need to explain myself. But just in case any of them have stumbled upon it, I may need to go the private route. Ugh what a disaster. Some people never learn. And the biggest sin of all, is that my husband, and our family, has been let down by almost everyone in his family time and time again since his cancer diagnosis and you would think that it would be just the opposite and they would be there for him, and us.
I tell you, with all honesty, that it is a disappointment that I don't think we will ever recover from.
Just in time for the holidays. Yippee!